In this booklet, much has already been mentioned about these two concepts: affection and appreciation. However, given their importance in marriage, I felt it necessary to emphasize them by outlining the reasons and benefits associated with them below. As in previous cases, you need to identify all the areas where your wife needs affection and gratitude.

The only person who can appreciate her and show her affection is you. She has left everyone else just to be with you forever. Therefore, if the person who is supposed to appreciate and show affection does not play his role to the fullest, it brings sadness and discouragement to her heart, regardless of her level of spirituality. Talk with her and try to understand the problems she is currently facing.

Stop being insensitive! When a man is swept away by activities, his sense of humor and sensitivity dies. Ask your wife what you can do to make her happy in life or to love her more. Please, my brother, humble yourself and ask your wife what she wants. There are things that a good house, a car, and money cannot replace or satisfy. One of these things is the place of appreciation in marriage.

Sometimes, she just wants to spend time with you while you are too busy at the office, married to your career and your boss. Make time for reflection and take your wife out for a picnic or a quality dinner in a relaxed atmosphere away from the cries and demands of the children.

Give your wife surprise gifts and change her wardrobe from time to time to make her feel rejuvenated every day. It is quite unfortunate to see that some men dress to impress while they are unable to take care of their wives to make them more presentable. Why shouldn’t such women complain, murmur, and lament? Some men who have lost their sense of responsibility and dignity can even afford to clothe their so-called useless friends, bandits, while leaving their wives to wear rags on important occasions.

And when such men go out with their wives, the husband walks far ahead to avoid being identified with her, “his own wife.” Some men are even ashamed to introduce their wives to other men because they know that their wives are not presentable in the worn-out clothes they bought since their honeymoon.

Oh! Men, change! Carefully consider your ways and change them so as not to set your house on fire. Learn to show affection and appreciation to your wife because you are the only person she has, and by doing so, you protect her from high blood pressure.

I want to repeat something I have said several times in this book: discover what personal problems your wife wants to solve. No matter how much she smiles at you, she still has her problems, and if you do not ask her, she will not explain them to you. Try to discern and understand her because her problems come in different shapes and sizes.

Perhaps her problems do not come from you but rather from her relatives, her parents, or her past life (childhood). Her problem may also be related to insecurity and fear about her future life or uncertainty about her future. Please, encourage her to expose the root of her worries to you and then help her immediately so that she feels reassured and secure…

This text is an excerpt from the book  “ HOW TO PROTECT YOUR WIFE? ” written by Victor Charles OKAFOR.

We invite you to read the following article “GIVING SEXUAL PROTECTION TO YOUR WIFE“.

AFFECTION AND APPRECIATION