A war-wounded person sometimes feels ashamed of their scars. They hide behind masks to appear strong. They fear being judged and showing their true selves: whole, sensitive, generous beings who only want to be loved and to love in return for who they really are. A war-wounded person who doesn’t heal their wounds is a […]
It’s hard for a former war-wounded person to believe in love again. Even though she feels it, she thinks about all the worst things that could happen, all the negative possibilities that could arise, so she stays on guard. Her fear that this relationship might also fail is so strong that she forgets to live […]
Sometimes a war-wounded woman is afraid to love again. This doesn’t mean that she doesn’t secretly desire to love and be loved once more. We can’t deny the fact that the scars of the past have caused a turmoil in her psychology to the extent that, well, only a certain type of man can understand […]
I was also “calculating” a guy who had started messing with my mind while I was still in my home country, before leaving for the United States. “I’ll come and get you, or we’ll organize for you to join me.” And the naive person that I was in love believed it for a moment. He […]
What did I even do worse than others to deserve this? I fully immersed myself in victimization. There were no guys lurking around anymore; I had put aside all past relationships, the kind you rekindle when you feel lonely. Anyway, for those, I had been exposed; it’s a game I wasn’t good at in the […]
Sometimes, while laughing at myself and in my moments of intense reflection, I have always wondered if the slogan of most women commonly called “war casualties” (like I was before) is: ALL MEN ARE BAD: where are the ones who are supposed to marry us tomorrow? A sarcastic voice then replied: “They are in the […]
Based on my personal experience, the first thing I did was start seeing the prejudices, derogatory remarks, and societal stereotypes as they are: what others think of me. I understood that what I think of myself and the situation I’m currently in will determine my level of detachment from what others think, my level of […]
“We are, in fact, the fragrance of Christ to God among those who are being saved and among those who are perishing…” 2 Corinthians 2:15 Let’s read together 1 John 2:14-17 I explained to you on the first day how my wife stopped following an online comedian because she was beginning to adopt her expressions. […]
Will Smith’s recent story shows us that when you’re not a woman’s first choice, she may end up destroying your life. This applies equally to women. Will Smith is actually just a second choice, with Tupac Shakur being Jada Smith’s love of her life. If a man doesn’t appeal to you, let him go. Refuse […]
The hardest part of the process is seeing the impact that this separation has had on the children. If we were to talk about regrets, it would be regarding how I managed my daughters during this separation. It’s not easy, but we can limit the damage in order to preserve the mental and emotional health […]
