As a bonus to this non-exhaustive list, we have the fake personality. As the name suggests, no one is safe from encountering, living, or working with such a person. A true social chameleon, adapting to circumstances and the environment.

These are high-level flatterers, skilled opportunists, and very deceitful individuals who won’t hesitate to deceive or betray you once their hidden agenda is fulfilled or when they’ve taken all they can before abandoning you.

This category of people, detecting your potential, will gravitate toward you, learn about you, and use this knowledge for their own benefit. They will push you to open up, giving you the impression of being a keen listener with genuine empathy.

We generally enjoy talking about our dreams and accomplishments! They will even go so far as to give you just enough to make you grateful, win your esteem, and infiltrate your inner circle so you roll out the red carpet for them.

As seasoned flatterers, they will shower you with compliments, particularly in front of those you admire, to ensure they too are well-regarded. They’ll tell you exactly what you want to hear to keep their position secure and effortlessly obtain services or favors from you, all for free.

And you, being a good Samaritan, will naturally open up to them, grant them access to opportunities, and share your contacts—until you realize it’s all one-sided, with deception and opportunism at every turn. Such personalities never manage to hide forever; eventually, the mask of deceit slips, exposing them, often disguised as innocent or victimized individuals.

You can recognize them through these details:

1. They don’t honor commitments: They always have convincing excuses for failing to keep their word. However, they’ll tell you about commitments they’ve honored elsewhere, leaving you wondering why yours weren’t fulfilled. Beware: if you dare call them out, you’ll quickly be labeled ungrateful.
2. They steal your ideas: They eagerly seek your input or approval for their projects but then claim your ideas as their own. In public, they’ll present themselves as the sole originator, never crediting you for your contributions or assistance.
3. They self-promote relentlessly: They always portray themselves as victims of their own kindness. Yet, their behavior toward you often contradicts the values they claim to embody. When you meet people close to them, their descriptions rarely match your own experiences, leaving you feeling like you’re dealing with two personalities in one.
4. They disclose your secrets: Pay close attention to how they speak about people they were once close to. They’ll share intimate details divulged during moments of vulnerability or trust. Their ease in revealing others’ private matters will send chills down your spine.
5. They badmouth former friends: Their enemies often include those who once helped them. To uncover someone’s true nature, listen to how they talk about those who supported them in the past. Don’t worry—you’ll be treated the same way once they can no longer extract favors from you.

This excerpt is from the book  “These Relationships Which Give Birth Or Abort Our Destiny” written by  Suzanne KWEDI and Jennifer SYLAIRE.

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