Husband and wife should not allow pride and strife to come into their lives because pride is a “Separator”. The Bible says 

“God resist the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble” (James 4: 6). 

Pride is an evidence of a man or woman who is far from God. It’s an attitude of the heart that makes one to feel superior and have a high opinion of oneself. Pride is just to feel superior. It is an attitude of lack of sorry or remorse when things happen between you and your partner . It is just nothing but pride! 

Learn to say sorry, forgive me and close the door of bitterness and hatred in your marriage Pride is the twin brother of strife. And strife is an attitude of selfishness and wanting to have one’s way, or to pass one’s high opinion (which should not be so in marriage). Strife opens doors for all kinds of envy and confusion in the home. 

“Who is a wise man (and woman) and endued with knowledge among you? Let him show out of a good conversation his works, with meekness of wisdom. But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth. This wisdom descendeth not from above, but is earthly, sensual, devilish. For where envying and strife is there is confusion and every evil work”. James 3: 13 – 16 

“Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins” Proverbs 10: 12. 

“From whence come wars and fightings among you (husband and wife?) Come they not hence, even of your lust that war in your members. Ye lust, and have not, ye kill and desire to have, and cannot obtain. Ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not. Ye ask and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts.” James 4: 1 – 3. 

Strife emanates from selfish ambitions that prompts one to promote one’s interest. The major souce of quarrels and conflicts in marriages is centered on desires for recognition, honour, glory, power, pleasure, money and superiority. Marriage should not be built on what you want to get but on what you can give: marriage is all about giving( sacrifice). If you are not ready to give , please I will advice you not to marry!…

This text is an extract from the book “ Breaking The Strongholds Of Hatred And Bitterness In Marriage ” written by Victor Charles OKAFOR.

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