The use of words is a Biblical strategy in parenting. The words you speak to your children go a long way in shaping their lives and destinies. The Bible makes it absolutely clear that your words create your harvest in every area of life. Just as you cannot sow an orange seed and harvest an apple, so you cannot talk negative and receive positive outcome. Proverbs Chapter 12 verse 14 says, A man shall be satisfied with good by the fruit of his mouth.

Words are seeds and when spoken are planted in your life, your children’s lives and destinies. Your children are your crown, nurture them with right words. The Bible says your speech should always be with grace, seasoned with salt. (Colossians 4:6) It is appalling to hear what some parents and guardians say to their children and wards, quite poisonous words.

i. Speaking Into Their Future

Picture the future you want for your children. This future can be realized through your spoken words. Your words serve as conditioning environment for the potentials of your children. If you want to see their great future, speak positive words to them continually, words that will propel them to achieve their utmost in life.

Words are like raw eggs; when you drop them, they cannot be gathered up again.

“How forcible are right words… “ Job 6:25

When you speak, power is released. You must realize that God is waiting to collect and act on your words.

“Say unto them, As truly as I live, saith the LORD, as ye have spoken in Mine ears, so will I do to you.” Numbers 14:28

Pause a minute and imagine God actually doing to your children every single thing you said to them and about them. You will realize that many times, parents are the very ones pulling down what they are supposed to be building. What you say are not empty words.

Your words serve as conditioning environment for the potentials of your children.

God takes you seriously; it’s high time therefore for you to take yourself and what you say very seriously. Many people have destroyed the destiny of their children by their words.

“Thou art snared with the words of thy mouth, thou art taken with the words of thy mouth.” Proverbs 6:2

Words are the molding blocks of your children’s destiny. Jesus said categorically,

“He shall have whatsoever he saith.” Mark 11:23

Protect the destiny of your children; don’t say things that will affect their future negatively. Don’t snarl at them.

“My son, pay attention to my wisdom; Lend your ear to my understanding Lest aliens be filled with your wealth, and your labors go to the house of a foreigner.” Proverbs 5:1, 10 (NK)V)

It is more constructive to speak gently to your children and wards than to scream at them. Hard and harsh words kill something inside a child. Children who grow in harsh environments tend to be timid and portray lack of self-confidence in their adult lives. Sanitize their lives and destiny with healthy words and teach them to always speak right words no matter what is to the contrary.

Words are the molding blocks of your children’s destiny.

A songwriter says,I am what God says I am. Say only what God says about your children, and refuse the tendency to describe or call them by the erroneous things that they do from time to time. I’ve heard my husband say over and again, Respond to issues, don’t react to them. Reaction to a negative incidence will generate more evil, but when you respond, you impose positivity and consequently, subdue the evil.

Words of truth, once spoken, have a way of piercing hearts and minds.

Every child displays some elements of foolishness and immaturity. In spite of that you must learn to be disciplined not to speak what you should not. We are charged to train them and rid them of those shortcomings. It is immaturity for any adult to stoop to the level of a child’s infantile behavior and deal with him or her at that same level. Instead of reacting at the same level, respond from a higher level with love.

The Bible says, He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls. Proverbs 25:28 -On no account should you speak evil, destructive and discouraging words to your children.

You are writing daily examinations on Self Control every moment of your day and your children and wards are the specimen. See their misbehavior as another test to mature you in love, wisdom and self control.

Your words serve as conditioning environment for the potentials of your children. Create positive and empowering environment for them by speaking words of prophecy that inspire their hearts and provoke their hidden abilities. Always be positive in your approach to them. What you call your children is what they eventually turn out to be.

“Thou shalt know also that thy seed shall be great, and thine offspring as the grass of the earth.” Job 5:25

Say to your children, It shall be well with you. You will not be small. You are destined for greatness. You are wonderfully and fearfully made to show forth the praises of your God. You are excellent. The top is calling for you. Continue to call forth the manifestation of the ability that is locked up in them. 

Inside your child are awesome potentials. Don’t despise or look down on any child, no matter his mistakes and errors.

Your children are the generation next. Start celebrating them today. Make up your mind to speak them to the peak….

This text is an extract from the book “BIBLICAL PRINCIPLES OF PARENTING” written by Mary A. Abioye. 

We invite you to read the following article “TEACH THEM TO BE RESPONSIBLE“.

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