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4. “Cash”

Everyone needs money. Even Jesus needed “bread” for His ministry. But if you get married because you are poor and your partner is rich, you’re digging the grave of a broken marriage. Families are often to blame for marriages that fail because of money. A girl is “sold” into marriage to feed the extended family. This is still the spirit of materialism and greed.

But the single person is also at fault. Do you love him because he gives you a lot of money, because he showers you with gifts? What will happen to your heart the day he stops giving you gifts? You’ll go after the one who gives you more! That’s unfaithfulness! And the day he loses his job and can no longer give you everything you ask for, will you file for divorce and chase after the highest bidder? That’s divorce! Women leaving their husbands for richer men — it happens every day.

My brother, before marrying a girl, test her love of money. If necessary, multiply and complicate the test. Girls who love money are ready to create all kinds of scenarios to get it. Usually, it’s about buying shoes, perfume, trendy clothes, and so on. It’s the spirit of the world.

My sister, make sure that the young man who says he loves you is not after your wealth or savings. Don’t be swayed by his looks, elegance, charm, or attention. Put him through the test of love of money — until he passes it several times without fail. If he fails multiple times, put him aside! Forget him!

5. “Career”

This is the element I’m adding to the four mentioned by Pastor Jenkins. Even though many couples working in the same profession succeed in marriage, we don’t get married just because we share the same line of work. That’s a form of apartheid. If the writer must marry a writer, the lawyer a lawyer, the politician a politician, the merchant a merchant, the nurse a nurse, the musician a musician, the artist an artist — what will happen to carpenters, masons, or mechanics? It becomes a form of segregation through the bond of marriage.

Is he in the same profession as you? That’s great! But make sure you are truly made for each other. Just because the avocado tree grows next to the mango tree doesn’t mean it must become a mango tree or produce mangoes. Just because the dog walks in harmony with the cat doesn’t make it a cat. There are deeper, more fundamental criteria you must rely on when choosing your future spouse — beyond their possessions, wealth, physical beauty, appearance, or talents. Here they are…

This text is an excerpt from the book “How to Know Who to Marry? For Young Singles” written by Jean-Paul Marie (Pastor Samuel Binyou).

We invite you to read the next article: “CHARACTER”.

THE “C” CHECKS. THE “C” CHECKS. THE “C” CHECKS.