To the unbeliever, prayer is a non-conventional weapon. But to the Christian, it is a conventional weapon. The Apostle Paul advised believers to arm themselves spiritually with all kinds of weapons in their walk with God on earth:

“Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand firm. Stand therefore, having fastened on the belt of truth, and having put on the breastplate of righteousness, and, as shoes for your feet, having put on the readiness given by the gospel of peace. In all circumstances take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming darts of the evil one; and take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.” (Ephesians 6:13-17)

He mentions about six (6) weapons of victorious prayer: truth, righteousness, the gospel of peace, faith, salvation, and the word of God. In the context of seeking a life partner, every Christian should, in faith, seek someone who is already saved. And if the person is not saved, one must put on the shoes of the gospel to win their partner to Christ before considering any romantic engagement. If your partner is already saved, other weapons are still necessary: the belt of truth, the shield of faith, and the sword of the Word of God.

God declared that it is not good for man to be alone. The same God also declared that a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. These declarations of faith are the very foundations upon which we must sometimes pray and fast persistently and systematically when struggling to find a life partner.

It is not wrong for a Christian to fast and pray to find their soulmate. In fact, it is encouraged—because your destiny is deeply tied to your partner on earth. If the patriarchs prayed insistently for their future spouses, who are you not to do the same for the man or woman destined for you? It is written of the one seeking a life partner:

“Then he prayed, ‘Lord, God of my master Abraham, make me successful today, and show kindness to my master Abraham. See, I am standing beside this spring, and the daughters of the townspeople are coming out to draw water. May it be that when I say to a young woman, “Please let down your jar that I may have a drink,” and she says, “Drink, and I’ll water your camels too”—let her be the one you have chosen for your servant Isaac. By this I will know that you have shown kindness to my master.’” (Genesis 24:12-14)

This passage contains one of the most powerful secrets to conquering the heart of one’s God-appointed partner.

The first secret: The servant made a specific request. What kind of man or woman do you desire to marry? Sometimes people want to get married but don’t have a clear or specific prayer request.

The second secret: The servant interceded with God for Isaac’s future wife. In addition to Isaac, someone close to him also knelt in prayer for his future. It can be helpful to confide in a trustworthy brother or sister in Christ, someone called to intercession, or a close, born-again relative to intercede for you in your search for a spouse.

The third secret: After praying—or even while praying—the servant took a step of faith by going out to the field, to the well: “See, I am standing beside the spring.” He was on alert, watchful, and eagerly expecting to find his partner. The fishermen who catch the biggest fish are the most skilled and attentive. This sometimes requires moving—physically and spiritually. If you fast and pray locked away in four walls for months, without action, you might die there without an answer. After prayer, you must step out, because the answer is often outside the four walls.

The fourth secret: Praying through revelation or until you receive revelation. The servant said, “Let it be that the one to whom I say…” He prayed until he received a sign of who the woman should be. Perhaps it was the sign his master had given him? What sign has God given you regarding your future partner?

The fifth secret: Sealing your request within God’s eternal plans. Many pray and ask God—but how will your answered prayer serve to advance the Kingdom or fulfill a divine promise on earth? The servant concluded his prayer in essence by saying: “Then I will know that your promises to Abraham, your servant and prophet, are true, because Isaac is the one through whom you promised to multiply his descendants like the stars.” This is not just a reflection—God is more moved by Kingdom purposes than by worldly projects.

In what way is your marriage project a divine mission, fitting into God’s universal plan—especially to fulfill His will in your family and region?

Many miss out on their marital destiny because they don’t place God at the center of everything. I began seriously praying, even weeping, for the woman of my destiny three years before meeting her—after taking advice from Prophet Jérémie Soudril.

At the time, I had just gone through a breakup with a girl who eventually became a Catholic nun. She told me she had received her calling. I was devastated. We were “engaged,” unofficially at least. I even spent two weeks alone at her place preparing for my first master’s thesis defense.

I prayed almost three times a day for the woman of my destiny for twelve straight months. In the second year, I met a young woman who became the mother of my firstborn son. But that shows us: just because you leave the desert after forty days and nights, doesn’t mean the first fruitful tree you find is from God.

After prayer, you must remain watchful. It was in the wilderness, in deprivation, that Jesus experienced the greatest temptations of His ministry. After that time of temptation, which lasted nearly three years, I resolved to stay alert for my beloved, having stopped praying for a woman I didn’t yet know.

Midway through the fourth year of my wait, after listening to a teaching on holy anger by Pastor Marcello Tunasi (EMCI TV Canada), I began to fast for my future wife. Until then, I had only prayed without fasting. I fasted for 3 days, then 7, 15, and finally 21 days. After each fast, I received, more or less, partial revelations of my wife’s identity and physical appearance.

God gave me three major dreams that were decisive for meeting and choosing the woman who is now my wife—the one to whom I dedicate this work. Without that persistent spiritual exercise, I would almost certainly—99%—have married someone else. Many Christian or non-Christian couples are broken today due to poor choices.

Without prayer and fasting, driven by haste and the desires of your heart, you risk making the wrong choice. May God preserve you from that through this reading!

This text is an excerpt from the book “How to Know Who to Marry? For Young Singles” written by Jean-Paul Marie (Pastor Samuel Binyou).

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