First and foremost, we must recognize that God is a relational being. One only has to look at the communion between the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Since God created us in His image, every human being also becomes a relational being. This means that God created humans, in a way, to live in a world where there is love, sharing, and companionship. To love and be loved in return.

It is important to note that this thirst for love is much stronger in women than in men. While men seek glory, power, and respect, women, on the other hand, are in constant search of attention and love. This is how we were designed. This is also why women always strive to be beautiful and pleasant to look at, to attract attention. It is also the reason why God commanded husbands to love their wives (Ephesians 5:25).

This way of functioning is not inherently wrong; it’s simply how we were created. However, due to our fallen nature, today’s women often seek love in the wrong places, especially during their singleness. Instead of drawing this unconditional love from God and Jesus, they desperately try to find it in someone who often cares very little about them. The fear of loneliness leads them to settle for scraps of attention from the men they currently interact with.

Even though they may initially desire to marry a godly man, the fear of loneliness pushes them to significantly lower their standards. Satan is aware of this reality. He intensifies this fear by amplifying it through the external pressures of the surrounding society: through the grandmother who constantly tells us to get married, through the close friend who repeatedly asks where our boyfriend or fiancé is, or through the aunt who constantly reminds us that time is passing and that it’s time to have at least one baby.

To silence these relatives who keep pressuring them about marriage, women allow just anyone into their lives, and even into their bodies. A woman who fears being alone has always been an easy target, and men are aware of this. These women are not only less attractive, but they are also easy to manipulate.

Noticing this behavior, men then suggest sleeping with them, using emotional blackmail by saying that if they refuse, the men will leave them. The victim, driven by the fear of being abandoned and with low self-esteem, easily agrees. Even if the person in question knows God’s Word clearly regarding immorality and sex before marriage, she reluctantly compromises her beliefs to gain the minimal attention from the boy she’s in a relationship with.

Even worse, there are some who accept premarital sexual relationships without even being committed to the person. These types of relationships are now called “sex-friends” or “open relationships.” It’s clear that the sister in question is not truly comfortable with this label or this type of relationship. But when one is too consumed by loneliness, they accept almost anything.

The fear of loneliness can lead a person to go from relationship to relationship without ever feeling truly fulfilled inside. The truth is, they are looking in the wrong place to fill this void: true fulfillment can only be found in Jesus…

This text is an excerpt from the book Dare to Preserve Yourself by Gaetri Violette IAVIZARA.

We invite you to read the following article: “The Love of Pleasure”.