She is a single woman living in complete denial of her deep inner distress. Almost everyone around her can see her pain—except herself. Sometimes, she hides it well. She pretends that everything is fine, wearing masks of an independent woman who doesn’t need a relationship to be happy.

Deep down, she longs for a relationship. She suffers from this desire, and the duplicity she hides slowly eats away at her and fills her with inner anguish. Unintentionally, she sabotages her own relationships through her words, her excessive expectations, her prejudices, her fear of getting hurt, and her difficult character.

She is deeply afraid of committing again, which is why she often loudly proclaims her so-called independence.
She speaks negatively and pessimistically about romantic relationships.
She carries within herself deep emotional wounds that she refuses to acknowledge or confront, making it impossible to begin the healing process. To avoid loneliness, she may engage in meaningless relationships, stringing together flings that fall apart at the first sign of difficulty.

In some specific cases, she may turn to harmful substances to forget her inner pain.
She may even entertain absurd thoughts like: “I’ll be with Peter while waiting for Paul to become available. At least Peter is married—I can leave him anytime once I find someone ready to marry me.”

She is often surrounded by toxic influences that she struggles to break free from…

This text is an excerpt from the book “Preparing and Maximizing Your Season of Singleness Towards Marriage” written by Suzanne KWEDI.

We invite you to read the next article: “THE SPECIAL SINGLE .”

THE GROUNDED SINGLE. THE GROUNDED SINGLE.