THE HUSBAND IS THE KEY.
No woman can cure her husband’s impotence on her own. She can help him, as mentioned above, but this is an exclusively male issue that only he can resolve through serious effort. Here are some steps a husband can take in addition to those mentioned previously:
- Pray about it, preferably with your wife. The Bible says, “Acknowledge Him in all your ways, and He will make your paths straight.” God has led men in amazing ways to find help for this problem. Let Him help you.
- Consult your doctor and follow their advice.
- Speak openly with your wife about it.
- Read as much credible information as you can on the subject.
Nothing amplifies fear like ignorance, but nothing reduces fear to mere reality like knowledge. As Christians, we often disagree with the theories and conclusions of humanist authorities, yet we can find many useful recommendations in their writings. Remember that all truth is God’s truth. Regardless of its source, truth is still truth.
Einstein’s theory of relativity should not be dismissed because he was a humanist. Similarly, a liberal medical text read with spiritual discernment can provide effective solutions. Unfortunately, most Christian authors on human sexuality haven’t clearly addressed the issue of impotence.
- Begin a fitness program with your doctor’s guidance.
Several of my friends claim that jogging enhances their virility. Tests indicate that it increases overall energy levels, so their observations may well be accurate.
- Pursue a weight-loss program if necessary.
- Avoid sexual relations when you’re tired.
Most people fall into two categories: either they are “night owls” (those who work best at night but wake up around 10 a.m.) or “early birds” (those who wake up with the birds but fall asleep around 8 or 9 p.m.). Whichever type you are, try to engage in intimacy when you’re fully awake, as that’s when your glands are most active.
- Don’t rush into lovemaking.
The more you anticipate the act before penetration, the easier it is to ejaculate. Many therapists suggest that men find it easier to maintain an erection when lying on their back during intercourse. Somehow, this facilitates blood flow to the pelvic region.
Therefore, if a husband and wife use the position with the wife on top, his erections will remain firmer and last longer, which, of course, is key to mutual satisfaction. A position a couple may enjoy for much of their marriage is one where the husband is on top and kneeling. (This can be highly pleasurable for both.)
However, it may be necessary to switch to letting the wife be on top if the husband has trouble maintaining an erection, especially after age 60 or 70.
- Don’t give up! Expect success.
Dr. David Reuben, who has spent many years in the field of sexual relations and written several bestsellers on this and related topics, sums up the issue of impotence by saying:
“Almost all men can overcome their impotence. There is a minority whose issues are primarily physical, and a small group that clings to impotence as a badge and wouldn’t relinquish it for anything. But for the majority, returning to a vigorous and satisfying sexual performance is simply a matter of personal choice. With determination, hard work, and the love of a devoted woman, practically any man can be and remain highly potent until the age of seventy, even eighty.“
This text is an excerpt from the book The Act of Marriage: The Beauty of Sexual Love, written by Tim and Beverly LaHaye.
We invite you to read the following article: “Libido and the Life of the Mind.”
THE HUSBAND IS THE KEY. THE HUSBAND IS THE KEY.
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