Sometimes a war-wounded woman is afraid to love again. This doesn’t mean that she doesn’t secretly desire to love and be loved once more. We can’t deny the fact that the scars of the past have caused a turmoil in her psychology to the extent that, well, only a certain type of man can understand her and build a healthy and lasting relationship with her. Don’t blame her; he is just like you…

The type of man who will struggle to build a healthy relationship with a war-wounded woman is one who has not yet healed from his own wounds or started the process to heal. He is the one who denies his true mental state. He is often anxious, even distressed by death, afraid of being left, abandoned; he lacks self-confidence, faith in God, and trust in others; he panics tremendously when things go wrong.

He feels in competition (in his mind) with these categories of women called strong, independent like… you. He takes a perverse pleasure in breaking the shell that war-wounded women have put up to gain an advantage over them. He feels intimidated, inferior in the face of his partner’s success or favor. This type of man generally doesn’t know his identity; he sometimes feels inferior to people, especially women who have a higher intellectual or financial level than he does; he tends to believe that he is not accepted, and he complains all the time.

So, as soon as his condition becomes advantageous, he often becomes very boastful, showy, very exuberant, bragging about the little he has to avoid feeling humiliated. He struggles to forgive and to forgive himself, he regularly reminds his partner of her mistakes. He can be very severe, he doesn’t appreciate or barely notices the efforts his partner makes to make him happy.

He struggles to rejoice in her success; he condemns something in reality out of a complex of not being able to have it. He loves being the star, he wants to be the only one shining in the relationship. He has many stereotypes about women, most of which are very fixed; he will have a hard time with female superiors or collaborating at a high professional or social level with women.

The authority of a woman, even if legitimate, is unbearable to him. He doesn’t know how to appreciate who his partner is (the person) without despising or humiliating her, sometimes through her physical attributes, her dominant position; he draws his glory from the high-ranking people he knows, his job, his roles, his possessions…

This text is an excerpt from the book “COLLECTION OF A WOUNDED WEAR!” written by Suzanne KWEDI.

We invite you to read the following article “LETTER TO MY FUTURE LIFE PARTNER”.

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