
WHY FAMILY SUCCESS?
Success in anything in life, and particularly in marriage, is not accidental. It is a product of proper alignment with the truth of God’s Word. No accident is ever said to be successful.,No one succeeds by chance. A successful marriage does not just happen; it is made to happen. A wise man said, “Many people dream of success, but others wake up and work at it!” The responsibility for the success of your family rests absolutely on you, and that begins with your perception of the family.
There is a purpose for every existing thing, and the family is no exception. Purpose is power! When the purpose for the family is clearly understood, then proper family structure and values will be upheld, treasured and strengthened.
A lack of understanding of and appreciation for what the family is and what it stands for, ultimately creates a tendency for abuse, misuse, and the taking for granted of this important institution, which serves as the foundation for every nation and people.
Why Create Families?
Why the family? What is the reason for its existence?
“For every house is builded by some man…” Hebrews 3:4
God’s purpose for the family is seen in the above scripture: “every house is builded by some man.” Families and households are relationships meant for building the individual members. There is a building process that is meant to take place in the lives of the individuals that make up a family or household. The family is the God-ordained environment for such building process. However, faulty family foundations have resulted in family members being partially built up, half-baked individuals, which always result in societal and national decadence.
There are values to be taught, as well as character traits to be imbibed among family members, and the family environment is the God-ordained place for such training. Without a proper understanding of what the family and home is meant to be la place and environment for building godly and strong character in the individuals, a place to build individuals ready to render loving and selfless service), that house or family cannot be built up, neither can that nation be established. The Lord Jesus said:
“A house divided against itself cannot stand.” Matthew 12:25
It is so important that you have a clear picture of what the family stands for, and what the Originator (God) had in mind when He created it. This understanding will help you appraise your own family.
We have seen how the Bible uses the word “house” to refer to the smallest and most basic unit of the society – the family. We have also established that the house is the foundation of any society, and that marriage is what forms the initial foundation for every house. This means that the health of any nation or society is determined by the health of the families in that nation, and the health of the families in that nation is determined by the health of the marriage relationships such families are founded on.
Successful and solid families don’t just come into existence. In order for them to be properly built up, they must be established on a proper marriage foundation. The proper foundation involves first a bonding between we horn. The practice a woman, after which children are born. The practice of children being born out of wedlock, abandoned babies, the co. habitation of unmarried men and women, or people d the same sex is not a proper foundation to build a family on.
God’s Word warns against improper foundation. Look at this scripture:
“If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?” Psalm 11:3
If the family foundation is faulty, then the result you will get will be faulty people in society, that will eventually lead all to misery.
Every Christian couple should aspire to succeed in their marriage and family life, even though some think it is actually no one’s business whether they make it or not in marriage. That is erroneous, especially because the success or failure of a family, particularly a Christian family, has far greater effects than many couples know.
Must The Family Succeed?
How can we be sure that God designed the family to succeed? Let’s examine this subject briefly. The Lord God Caused…
“And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.” Genesis 2:21-22
This account in the Book of Genesis is the account of the very first wedding ceremony. God was practically involved in the institution of the first family unit ever.
God did not just speak it into existence like He did the rest of creation, He made Adam. He caused him to sleep a deep sleep, and then took a rib from his side. Out of this rib, He formed the woman and brought her unto Adam.
God Himself, therefore, was the initiator. This means then that marriage is rooted in divinity. Without any doubt, anything associated with God is meant to succeed.
Marriage is associated with God, therefore, it is meant to be successful.
He said, “Be fruitful…”
“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.” Genesis 1:27-28
God began the human family by blessing, not cursing it. He said to Adam and Eve, “Be fruitful, multiply, replenish the earth and subdue it!” What wonderful words of blessing!
Fruitfulness goes beyond procreation; it includes success in all areas of life. It also means having many good results. The fact that God rained blessings on the first family is a clear indication that every family is meant to be successful. These blessings will answer for you, in Jesus’ name!
Have Dominion…!
“Have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.” Genesis 1:28
The American Heritage Dictionary defines “dominion” as “control or the exercise of control.” The family was established, therefore, to have dominion, that is, to have and exercise control. It was established to be in control of, and not under the control of circumstances and situation of life. This in itself a sign that it was established for success.
He Put Them In Eden
“And the LORD God took the man, and put him into the Garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it.” Genesis 2:15
It is evident that the family was designed for success, because of the place where God placed them. If you have read the description of Eden, you will appreciate the fact that Eden was no wilderness. In fact, it literally means delight, or great pleasure.
God placed the first couple in a place of pleasure. His desire is that your family gives you pleasure. All family members should enjoy one another, experience fulfillment, laughter and excitement. He never intended the family to experience pressure, but pleasure. He designed the family to make life pleasurable. In case the situation in your family is far from being pleasant, as you read this book, believe God for a reversal, and it shall be so for you!
They Were Not Ashamed
“And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.” Genesis 2:25
God instituted marriage to ensure that man never experienced shame. Marriage brought man into a state of better living, glory, and beauty. There was no cause for fear or regret.
The third reason God instituted the family, and one of many reasons He designed it for success, is to take shame away from you. You will not see shame anymore!..
This text is an extract from the book “BUILDING A SUCCESSFUL FAMILY” written by Faith A. Oyedepo.
We invite you to read the following article “MARRIAGE VERSUS THE FAMILY“.
WHY FAMILY SUCCESS?
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