Many experiences in love, with sometimes genuine or false individuals in love, have led me to find a definition of this expression: ‘Bandit in love.’ These people who approach us in love come either to rob us or to build something solid with us. Those who come for our misfortune are simply love bandits, that is to say, men or women, depending on which side one finds themselves.

In this book, the examples cited stem from the fact that I am a woman. However, many men I have met have also been victims of dreadful misfortunes with love bandits. Love bandits are also real.

1. Definition

• The Larousse dictionary defines a bandit as a wandering and armed criminal and, in another sense, a person without scruples. By extension, the bandit in love is one who is not only a sentimental wrongdoer but also someone whose confessions are scattered with lies. Because they are unscrupulous in their relentless ambition to tame the object of their desire. One can easily attribute to a love bandit ambitions as disproportionate as they are deadly. That’s why purists assign them three major roles: to steal, to slaughter, and to destroy.

• For me, a love bandit is anyone who enters your life, invited or not, with the intention of stripping you of everything that has aroused their desire. They come to use you, and when they have finished their dirty work, they leave, leaving you without concern for the state in which they leave you. In this state, whether you are prepared to leave them or not, it is time for them to go; the most important thing for them was to use the relationship.

2. Attractive elements for the love bandit.

A bandit, whether in love or on the highway, is attracted by an element that you possess and that leads them to want to possess it at all costs, with or without your consent. They are often driven by a strong desire for selfishness and egocentrism. That is why they are capable of the worst without limit to appropriate it. It is therefore important to analyze or have an idea of the various material or immaterial things that are the object of desire for the bandit. The love bandit comes to use the relationship.

In other words, they only think of themselves, their happiness, their well-being, their pleasure, their achievements, and their ambitions. However, the lover or the person engaged in the love relationship may not be aware of the malicious and deceitful intentions of the love bandit, thus conceding all their attention, romance, body, and sometimes even their possessions, not to mention financial support. What does the love bandit come to use? We will discuss the different elements that attract the bandit, including:

The body of their lover.

If this body arouses desire and admiration in the surroundings, they will put several strategies and techniques in place to use it and then discard it. For other occult bandits, mere use is not enough; they must possess it for occult practices or use this body to fulfill their fantasies and then set it aside after use. And once done, they will leave with the pride of having satisfied the object of their desires. Some women also use men to satisfy their sexual desires and then discard them.

Fame or position.

When one achieves success professionally or elsewhere, popularity can attract love bandits around us. Celebrity, success, and financial success easily create attachment and interest. This is how some are seduced not out of love, but out of the desire to be seen with X or Y, or because behind such or such a person, they could secure a certain deal or have access to a category of people.

The love bandit calculates how to gain access to this high-profile individual not necessarily out of love but out of a desire to be known, so that the media and the environment also talk about them…

This text is an excerpt from the book “THE BANDITS IN LOVE” written by Elisabeth Bell.

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