No problem is ever solved by silence; on the contrary, it only gets worse. When you use silence as a weapon to pressure your partner, he or she may end up withdrawing if all their attempts to get you to talk fail. Moreover, you risk losing them if you continue playing this game for too long.

These things do happen, and people eventually decide it’s better to be with someone they can talk to rather than someone who sulks all the time and is as silent as a graveyard. The right thing to do in a conversation with your spouse is to explain everything clearly. And if you have hesitations or doubts, say so openly—you will feel much better.

“Once, you too were in total darkness. But now, through your union with the Lord, you have become people of light. So live like people who belong to the light, bringing brightness wherever you go. The fruits that the light produces are the opposite of the sins previously mentioned. They are everything that is good, right, and true: kindness, integrity of heart, scrupulous honesty, and love of the truth—in short, everything that bears the mark of the light. Since you are children of light, learn to discern what pleases the Lord; examine and evaluate your life from that perspective.”
Ephesians 5:8-10 (PVV)

I believe there is goodness in you, and I pray that you allow no shadow of darkness—that is, anything contrary to the truth—to take part in your relationship.

This text is an excerpt from the book “MYDUMAR: The Mystery of Marriage” written by Rev. Blaise KANGA.

We invite you to read the following article: “What You Must Absolutely Avoid Saying or Doing to Your Partner.”