We must ask ourselves essential questions. With so many wives and concubines, were Solomon’s marriages based on love or political calculations? Is it even possible, with one heart and one body, to love 700 wives and 300 concubines, especially knowing that marriage is both a physical and spiritual covenant?

If you are light-skinned and marry a dark-skinned woman, your children may be born either light-skinned or dark-skinned. Or if you marry a woman whose family is known to be quarrelsome and short in stature while you are tall and calm, some of your children may be tall and calm, or short and calm, or even tall and quarrelsome. This is part of the consequences of physical union.

On the spiritual level, not only is there mutual sharing between spouses, but more so, the children will be affected and fought by the same spirits found in both the husband and the wife. That is why you must not commit Solomon’s error. Look carefully, choose wisely, and ask God for His opinion before getting married. Investigate thoroughly, because if you marry a “Solomon”, do not forget that the whole world will be inside your home.

After a beautiful ceremony, a real struggle, a true battle awaits you, with all kinds of challenges at every level.

If you prayed to get married, you will also have to fast and pray to preserve and protect that same marriage. That’s why you must investigate first. Not everything that is rich, beautiful, and shiny is without baggage: appearances are often deceiving. And if you marry a “female Solomon”, the result will be the same—same struggles, same conflicts, same pains, endless regrets, and even, in some cases, the loss of salvation.

Moreover, remember that in ancient times, before choosing a wife for their son, parents took the time to inquire about the woman’s or man’s family. Nowadays, when people get married, these aspects are often ignored. Even being well married, in accordance with God’s perfect will, does not exclude demonic presences in the home or couple. Now, four important questions must be asked:

• Why do you want to get married?
• For whom do you want to get married?
• How do you want to get married?
• Do you know who you are marrying or want to marry?

Ahab, another king of Israel, repeated Solomon’s mistake. He married Jezebel, the daughter of Ethbaal, king of Tyre. She was a Sidonian whose name means “no cohabitation,” and she was a worshiper of Baal. She had children with Ahab: Ahaziah, Joram, and Athaliah. This marriage was opposed by the prophet Elijah, who called the worship offered by this Baal- and Ashtoreth-worshipping queen “prostitution and witchcraft.”

How can you live and cohabit with someone whose very name means the opposite? Do you really know the person you want to marry? Can you cohabit with someone who does not want to cohabit?

Generally, people like this carry a spirit that fights your peace and refuses to live in unity. This could be one reason why there is no peace in your home. When Jezebel came to Israel, she didn’t come alone—she came with all her gods: the gods her father, her mother, and her nation worshipped, along with the demonic prophets of those gods. They arrived and took control of the entire kingdom of Israel. They destroyed everything that represented the worship of the true God: YAHWEH SABAOTH.

Do not make the same mistake as Solomon or Ahab, because what God forbids often hides a curse that could fall upon us if we disobey. Also, when you want to enter into marriage, be ready—physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially, and even eternally—to face all its consequences, because not every marriage brings happiness.

Note: Marriage does not make one happy. You must be happy before entering marriage. Why would you lose your salvation because of marriage? That would be a waste to avoid at all costs. So make the right choice—or better yet, let God, the author of marriage, help you make your choice.

Example: In Yopougon (Côte d’Ivoire), a man who had married a woman received a revelation during a spiritual program that the woman he had married was not human. When pastors came to his home after his deliverance, the woman had disappeared—along with all the children they had together.

Isn’t it terribly troubling to find yourself in such a situation? Unfortunately, this happens often because we rush into relationships with people we don’t truly know. Learning to wait and taking time to receive instructions from the Lord helps us avoid Solomon’s mistakes and find the right man or woman.

We must always remember that marriage is neither a competition nor a race, so take your time…

This text is an excerpt from the book “Winning the Battles Related to the Mystery of Marriage” written by Rev. Blaise KANGA.

We invite you to read the next article: “Don’t Refuse Your Zacchaeus.”

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