I was also “calculating” a guy who had started messing with my mind while I was still in my home country, before leaving for the United States. “I’ll come and get you, or we’ll organize for you to join me.” And the naive person that I was in love believed it for a moment. He […]
What did I even do worse than others to deserve this? I fully immersed myself in victimization. There were no guys lurking around anymore; I had put aside all past relationships, the kind you rekindle when you feel lonely. Anyway, for those, I had been exposed; it’s a game I wasn’t good at in the […]
Sometimes, while laughing at myself and in my moments of intense reflection, I have always wondered if the slogan of most women commonly called “war casualties” (like I was before) is: ALL MEN ARE BAD: where are the ones who are supposed to marry us tomorrow? A sarcastic voice then replied: “They are in the […]
The Game of Appeasement The game of appeasement is an attempt to capture God’s attention by performing extraordinary acts while living a life that does not glorify Him. A striking example is someone claiming to be a committed Christian, working as an accountant, but secretly siphoning small amounts from employees’ paychecks into their own account. […]
The trap set by Satan is to divert God’s servant’s attention away from personal communion with the Lord by directing it towards even noble external service. The pressure of ministerial responsibilities and people’s expectations can create an imbalance if the servant does not maintain a personal discipline of seeking God’s presence. Jesus himself, despite the […]
Many experiences in love, with sometimes genuine or false individuals in love, have led me to find a definition of this expression: ‘Bandit in love.’ These people who approach us in love come either to rob us or to build something solid with us. Those who come for our misfortune are simply love bandits, that […]
a. The wounded in love or affection. A wounded in love is one who, having opened their heart to love or a romantic relationship, emerged from it with immense disappointment, the marks of which can be visible or invisible. Visible marks may include: an unwanted child, loss of job, depression, divorce, loss of material possessions, […]
1- Loss of self-esteem. This state is often very regrettable, especially when facing someone who has all the ingredients for happiness but lacks confidence and reassurance. Self-esteem is lost when one has been mistreated, belittled in love with or without reason. The victim blames themselves for one reason or another for the failure of the […]
Complicity is a crucial element that allows a romantic relationship to endure and especially to face life’s uncertainties. One can quickly feel comfortable in someone’s company during initial encounters without becoming complicit. Some enter into serious relationships without deepening their connection by considering the ingredients mentioned below. When I agreed to get engaged to Michel, […]
Guilt is a feeling of fault experienced by someone. It is therefore the state of someone who has committed a sin and feels guilty. This feeling, mixed with sadness, can end if the guilty party confesses their fault, repents, and obtains forgiveness. If the guilty party has not been able to seek and find forgiveness, […]
